Single Or Married: You Never Stop Growing
Is your Inner Relationship Coach keeping you single?
What Do You Need To Let Go Of To Find Your True Love?
Are You Ready For True Love Or Just Wanting It?
Do You Know Your Relationship Set-Point?
How to Change Your Dating Karma
Facing the Fear to Get to Love
Building Dating Confidence by Facing What You Fear
Why You Shouldn’t Trust Your Feelings In Relationships
Romancing Yourself To Love
ARE WE ALL JUST JADED HAGS? WHETHER TO GOOGLE YOUR DATE OR NOT
How Not To Get Beaten Up In a Club
"by perpetuating 'it' I mean to perpetuate this same ages-old view of women's sexuality being a sought-after commodity. That encompasses prostitution, stripping."
OK, but you are not addresses the extent to which, if any, this view is formed by the way men are hard-wired. You are talking about it like it's completely socially constructed; like shaking hands or bowing to greet someone.
"Do you really think that we are better off putting energy into debating about things like legalizing prostitution, closing down strip joints"
Well, it takes two to tango. I was responding to you, remember?
"or are we better off putting these efforts perhaps into educating people about having a view of women's sexuality that is more about their personal enjoyment of it"
You are being very vague here. Once again, if we elected you sex czar, what exactly would you do to accomplish this goal?
It is true that prostitutes usually don't enjoy having sex with customers, but this fact is not an incentive for most johns. They aren't going to prostitutes in order to have sex with a woman who is not enjoying the sex; they go to prostitutes because it is an easy way to get laid.
Posted by kungfujew on May 22, 2010 at 3:01 PM · Report
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"The culture we live in makes being a woman who is sexual a dangerous thing ANYWHERE you go, you have to admit that."
First, the dangers surrounding sexuality are not all cultural. Men are bigger and stronger than women, so the risk of rape is rooted largely in biology.
Second, as prostitutes are generally safer where prostitution is legal, the risks to prostitutes in the U.S. is due to our pretending not to permit the sexualization of women, not the fact that we actually do permit it.
"As to Arab countries, you are mistaken. Women's sexuality is VERY lucrative, that's why it has to be hidden- so men can 'deal with it.'"
My point was that women are not necessarily better off in societies which discourage the overt sexualization of women. The fact that prostitution exists in Arab Muslim countries only bolsters this point- unless you are taking the position that women are as overtly sexualized in these countries as they are in the U.S.
Is your Inner Relationship Coach keeping you single?
What Do You Need To Let Go Of To Find Your True Love?
Are You Ready For True Love Or Just Wanting It?
Do You Know Your Relationship Set-Point?
How to Change Your Dating Karma
Facing the Fear to Get to Love
Building Dating Confidence by Facing What You Fear
Why You Shouldn’t Trust Your Feelings In Relationships
Romancing Yourself To Love
ARE WE ALL JUST JADED HAGS? WHETHER TO GOOGLE YOUR DATE OR NOT
How Not To Get Beaten Up In a Club
"by perpetuating 'it' I mean to perpetuate this same ages-old view of women's sexuality being a sought-after commodity. That encompasses prostitution, stripping."
OK, but you are not addresses the extent to which, if any, this view is formed by the way men are hard-wired. You are talking about it like it's completely socially constructed; like shaking hands or bowing to greet someone.
"Do you really think that we are better off putting energy into debating about things like legalizing prostitution, closing down strip joints"
Well, it takes two to tango. I was responding to you, remember?
"or are we better off putting these efforts perhaps into educating people about having a view of women's sexuality that is more about their personal enjoyment of it"
You are being very vague here. Once again, if we elected you sex czar, what exactly would you do to accomplish this goal?
It is true that prostitutes usually don't enjoy having sex with customers, but this fact is not an incentive for most johns. They aren't going to prostitutes in order to have sex with a woman who is not enjoying the sex; they go to prostitutes because it is an easy way to get laid.
Posted by kungfujew on May 22, 2010 at 3:01 PM · Report
20
"The culture we live in makes being a woman who is sexual a dangerous thing ANYWHERE you go, you have to admit that."
First, the dangers surrounding sexuality are not all cultural. Men are bigger and stronger than women, so the risk of rape is rooted largely in biology.
Second, as prostitutes are generally safer where prostitution is legal, the risks to prostitutes in the U.S. is due to our pretending not to permit the sexualization of women, not the fact that we actually do permit it.
"As to Arab countries, you are mistaken. Women's sexuality is VERY lucrative, that's why it has to be hidden- so men can 'deal with it.'"
My point was that women are not necessarily better off in societies which discourage the overt sexualization of women. The fact that prostitution exists in Arab Muslim countries only bolsters this point- unless you are taking the position that women are as overtly sexualized in these countries as they are in the U.S.